BEST

Last week I attended my friend wedding with my friends back in KL. It was a great reunion though we dont have much time to share.

We decided to join the holy matrimony. I find it a bit different from the holy matrimony which I attended in my church. But I can say that I really enjoy the message that the pastor shared.

He reminded us to learn to be the BEST partner for our spouse. Many times when we look for a partner we want to get the best but we forget to be the best. It really brings me to a basic foundation of relationship. And yet we might get the best partner but we dont have the best marriage.

Well the simple yet powerful message which he shared to have the best marriage

B = Blessing

in our married life sometime we expect our spouse to bless us. We wait for them to bless us. But if we really want to have the BEST marriage we need to be the blessing for our spouse.

E = Edify (Encourage)

In marriage life, we need to edify one another to encourage one another. because when we did this we know that we learn to see the positive side of our spouse. when our spouse is in down moment, we will be there for them. Bring the best out of your spouse.

S = Sharing
In marriage life, learn to be open towards one another. share your life.

There was a recession during that time and Nathaniel Hawthorne was being retrench. When he was on the way back home he struggled whether want to tell his wife about his retrenchment. He scared that his wife might get angry to him and become frustration. But He remember that he need to open to his wife. So he decided to tell his wife.
And to his surprise, his wife was not getting angry and his wife suggest him to write a book, knowing that her husband can write well. Nathaniel reluctant to do it due to the living cost, who will cover it. His wife assure him that she has enough saving. From the monthly allowance which he gave to her, she managed to save and to cover them for 1 year.
So Nathaniel started to write a book and the book which he wrote call "Scarlet Letter" which later become booming and even go to Hollywood.
It started with his decision to open to his wife and his wife to edify and bless him, they succeed.

T = Touch

Touch your spouse's heart.
When you have touched your spouse heart you will really enjoy the relationship. it will bring again to the basic 3 above be a Blessing, Edify and Share your life then you will touch his/her heart.

Know what is the need of your spouse.

There is a story about a mother and also a wife. everyday in her activity is to take care of house and also the husband and sons. One day she felt sick but without failed she still doing her best to do her routine. She wants to be the blessing for her family. Her husband knows it so he said to his wife that he will bring their two sons to shopping centre for 2 hours. Where in this 2 hours the wife can take some sleep, a peaceful sleep. Well in that moment, is not gold or diamond that she needs, she needed time to take a good rest and her husband understand it.


In the end of his message he emphasizes that everything some from above. When a couple can meet and know each other its really God's plan. Let God stir man heart to find his half.

In the beginning of bible God created man will all the animals in the air, water and land. God's desire not to let the man to be alone, so he made a helper which suitable for adam.

Genesis 2:18-24
New International Version (NIV)

18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals
But for Adam[a] no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[b] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib[c] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

When God brought Eve to Adam, Adam knows deep inside his heart that this is the one. 

In ESV version :

23 Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”[e]

At last, he found the one that suitable for him. So for us who are still single, do believe that we will compatible towards one another. The woman will be a great helper to the man. As what eve did, she become a great helper for adam to rule over the earth. Everything will be beautiful in His timing

For the guys, do find your half ! Have a conviction that she is the one and in the end you will say at last I found her. :p 

Worry Free

Since last week of Dec, I wanted to write a post about worry. The message about worry is very strong in my mind. I have a lot of worry in my mind.

- worry of my parent health, business, who will accompany them
- worry of my career whether am I going to have a new job with a better environment
- worry of my future, who is my partner, will I be the only one left without a partner
- worry of my decision over certain thing, will I regret my decision
and many more.

If we want to list down all the worries that I have, I think it will take to pages of paper.

But after I think back all my worries, i have no conclusion on how to solve all the worries. it just add up my worries even worse. then a simple verse came to my mind

Mat 6:27-30

27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?

Well, its true that I cant give any solution by worrying. And while I learn about worry, I saw a lot of people surround me who live with full of worry. They may have all material with them but they have no peace in, they cant enjoy the life that their Creator gave.

I am not saying that in life we can ignore all the things and problem that we have in our life. Worry and ignorance its different thing. 

We can still worry about anything but we ignore the problem or person related to the circumstances that we are facing. 

Lets not being worry yet ignorance in our life, but bring our petition before the Lord. He will guide us to go through our life. 

Philipians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Lets we enjoy our days in years ahead with Him. and do listen to His guidance. :) 

Do remind each other yo...

I do

I took the flight today (29 dec 2011) going back to indo. Have such a great bros and sis who sent me off even though im going only for 1 month. But really feel their love.

Melisa, one of my good friends, gave me a book "Completely His loving Jesus without limit" to accompany me during my flight and during my bored moment in indo.


While waiting to take off, I opened the book. And I read the preface. Where its something unusual for me to do. I love to jump into the contain itself because I feel it will waste my time and effort to read the preface.

But to my surprise, while I read her preface I can sense that she really put her identity as Jesus's bride. where in the end of her prepafe, She gives thanks to her bridegroom Jesus and once again said 'I do'.

while I read the word 'I do' I question myself, what kind of 'I do' statement that she pronounce?

Is it something when people ask you do you want to have lunch this afternoon, and your answer will be i do.

But I found it isn't that kind of answer. And suddently my memory flashed back on early of this month where I attended 'ai" and beto' wedding, where they make a vow towards one another. They vow to be together in sickness an health, in poor and rich, only death will set them apart.


Well if you are married, in relationship or even maybe you are single right now, but you know that in marriage life will not be honeymoon stage all the time. There are a moment where you quarell, you upset with your partner. But because of your vow, you will continue together and learn to love one another unconditionally. There are a moment where you have no more 'lust' but because of your vow, you choose to love.


Friends when I flashed back on this, deep inside my heart believe that when she said 'I do', she knows that she wont be seperated with her bridegroom through many circumstances she might need to face. Because she will keep the love of her groom.

In our Christian walk with Jesus, there are times that we lost our first love towards Him, we lost our excitement and fire to be with His presence.
But as we grow in our spirituality, I believe we will be tested in our love commitment with our creator.
So do we still remember our vow when we invite Him to be our Lord and saviour?
Do we still love Him aside of all the circumstances that we faced?

are we going to say "I do" once again to Him?

I said "I do".

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I need you more

Have u ever feel alone? Have u ever feel that nobody understand u? Or do u feel that u jealous over ur frens because they have someone to be rely on?

Recently i upgraded my iphone os to ios5 and it caused all my song list gone. I only have 4 songs in my iphone. And practically, i listen to these songs everyday and it has been repeated for many times.
There is particularly song from bethel "I need You more". I do love this song. But as i listen to this song many times, i asked God how much do i need God.

While i asked this question, God remind me on the feeling of being alone and lonely. Then He said as you feel this, means you need Me even more in your life. Because only Him that can satisfy my soul. He is the only one that i need to feel that emptiness. Not money, not wealth, not bf or gf, but Him alone. when before i dont feel lonely, i need Him, How much more when i feel lonely. I need Him even more.

So im learning to ask for more of Him each day in my life. :)

Open eye open heart

Recently in one of my facebook group share about character. Where the things what is seen not always real. But what is inside more matter. We cant just judge by the book. Well i totally agree with that.


But 1 question that i want to post:
"how to know what is inside if it always been keep inside? If it never come out how do you know the true? Or if what we see is true or not?"


In relationship, i believe that before i decided i must open eye big big and open ear. See and listen from other people. But when u had decided, time to close eye and ear. U have to take every single thing about your partner.

I actually struggle also to know and to judge which is right which is wrong. Because when u open ur eye and ur ear, there are a lot of noise, distrubance from surround us and make us confuse.
But i thanks God, all this while God not only brought me to see with my eye, but with my heart also.
There is a story in bible where Jesus met His disciple after he rose from the death. But His disciple cant recognise Him. After He spend the whole day with them then Jesus opened their eye, it doesnt mean that they are blind, they juat dont see Him with the eye of their heart. only when Jesus did that they were able to recognise Him.

It teaches me when i see a person, i need to open eye and open heart. When i see someone doing something, i cant jump into conclusion. But i need the wisdom and guidance from Holy Spirit.
But in the other hand as i posted a queation on how to know if we didnt see, it teaches me to learn to act right.

As in the paul said, i will show my love with action. In the other word, i will show u what is inside my heart with action, with something tht people can see with their physical eye.
We need to act our attitude. But once again people will only see it with their physical eye if we dont have heart in doing it. We can reach their heart when we communicate with heart.

So friends, remember that we need to build our character within because it will grow stronger but not to forget to act right. And before you judge people, open eye, open heart. :)

Destiny

Its been a while that I post in my blog. And thia moment, one question pop up in my mind is destiny. Where is my destination? Some people may tell me, dont you know where is your destiny?
Yes, i know my final destination that i will meet my creator. But how am i doing right now in a journey to my destination?
I was being reminded by a song by miley cyrus, "The Climb". It goes like this :

I can almost see it
That dream I'm dreaming, but
There's a voice inside my head saying
You'll never reach it
Every step I'm takin'
Every move I make
Feels lost with no direction,
My faith is shakin'
But I gotta keep tryin'
Gotta keep my head held high

There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waitin' on the other side
It's the climb

The struggles I'm facing
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down, but
No I'm not breaking
I may not know it, but
These are the moments that
I'm gonna remember most
I've just gotta keep goin', and
I gotta be strong
Just keep pushing on, cause

There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waitin' on the other side
It's the climb

Keep on movin'
Keep climbin'
Keep the faith baby
It's all about, it's all about
The climb
Keep the faith, keep your faith, woah

If I interpret it the climb to life, I see it that its not about what i will achieve the most important. But how i am living my life.

So how am i living my life????