We decided to join the holy matrimony. I find it a bit different from the holy matrimony which I attended in my church. But I can say that I really enjoy the message that the pastor shared.
He reminded us to learn to be the BEST partner for our spouse. Many times when we look for a partner we want to get the best but we forget to be the best. It really brings me to a basic foundation of relationship. And yet we might get the best partner but we dont have the best marriage.
Well the simple yet powerful message which he shared to have the best marriage
B = Blessing
in our married life sometime we expect our spouse to bless us. We wait for them to bless us. But if we really want to have the BEST marriage we need to be the blessing for our spouse.
E = Edify (Encourage)
In marriage life, we need to edify one another to encourage one another. because when we did this we know that we learn to see the positive side of our spouse. when our spouse is in down moment, we will be there for them. Bring the best out of your spouse.
S = Sharing
In marriage life, learn to be open towards one another. share your life.
There was a recession during that time and Nathaniel Hawthorne was being retrench. When he was on the way back home he struggled whether want to tell his wife about his retrenchment. He scared that his wife might get angry to him and become frustration. But He remember that he need to open to his wife. So he decided to tell his wife.
And to his surprise, his wife was not getting angry and his wife suggest him to write a book, knowing that her husband can write well. Nathaniel reluctant to do it due to the living cost, who will cover it. His wife assure him that she has enough saving. From the monthly allowance which he gave to her, she managed to save and to cover them for 1 year.
So Nathaniel started to write a book and the book which he wrote call "Scarlet Letter" which later become booming and even go to Hollywood.
It started with his decision to open to his wife and his wife to edify and bless him, they succeed.
T = Touch
Touch your spouse's heart.
When you have touched your spouse heart you will really enjoy the relationship. it will bring again to the basic 3 above be a Blessing, Edify and Share your life then you will touch his/her heart.
Know what is the need of your spouse.
There is a story about a mother and also a wife. everyday in her activity is to take care of house and also the husband and sons. One day she felt sick but without failed she still doing her best to do her routine. She wants to be the blessing for her family. Her husband knows it so he said to his wife that he will bring their two sons to shopping centre for 2 hours. Where in this 2 hours the wife can take some sleep, a peaceful sleep. Well in that moment, is not gold or diamond that she needs, she needed time to take a good rest and her husband understand it.
In the end of his message he emphasizes that everything some from above. When a couple can meet and know each other its really God's plan. Let God stir man heart to find his half.
In the beginning of bible God created man will all the animals in the air, water and land. God's desire not to let the man to be alone, so he made a helper which suitable for adam.
Genesis 2:18-24
New International Version (NIV)
18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals
But for Adam[a] no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[b] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib[c] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
When God brought Eve to Adam, Adam knows deep inside his heart that this is the one.
In ESV version :
23 Then the man said,“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”[e]
At last, he found the one that suitable for him. So for us who are still single, do believe that we will compatible towards one another. The woman will be a great helper to the man. As what eve did, she become a great helper for adam to rule over the earth. Everything will be beautiful in His timing
For the guys, do find your half ! Have a conviction that she is the one and in the end you will say at last I found her. :p
2 comments:
Greatly written. I love the BEST concept but i have modified the last part to physical touch. Well, it started when i misunderstood the concept. And well, i mean simple physical touch of assurance. Did i choked you??!! Hahhaha....
ahhahahaha,.... ya.. it choked me... hahahahhahah
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